The Lure of the Siren

[breakdownbill]

Hey Denver

Hope you aren't feeling too rough chief.

I think with Arsene and his sitch it has pretty much all been said, from different angles and approaches.

I agree that Arsene should do what he wants to do. He's not ready to do anything that will change the landscape on his sitch and would sooner be in limbo than to risk speeding towards a divorce.

I totally get where he is coming from, I understand his choices and I like yourself and a lot of other people on here know what it feels like to stand for a M when your spouse is having an affair.

It hurts and it grinds you down like nothing else can.

I wish you weren't going through this, but you are mate and no matter what approach you take and whatever the outcome, be it next week, or next year there is a lot more hurt to go through.

This thread is a bit like a circle, where you keep going round and end up in the same place, in the same conversations, with the same people, giving you the same advice.

Why do you think that is that mate?

How long are you going to stick to plan A?

When you weigh it all up, noone has got all the answers, we just have opinions and we have our own experiences.

I respect you for sticking to doing what you want to do mate, I just think you are keeping yourself trapped in a cycle of hurt and emotional cruelty, that won't be broken unless something changes it.

It's just my opinion and you should do what you want to do.

I don't think I can really say anything else that I haven't said before.

Good luck mate, I hope it all works out for you.

Bill