I can understand what you mean about sex, and letting him lead.
It's possible that he's just one of those unusual guys (like my husband) who sees sex more like women see it. And that the intimacy of friendship has to be there. Monkey told me that he had to feel close to someone before he wanted to make love.
I suspect that's what is going on with him inviting you to watch movies.
I LOVE watching movies with my husband and would be in heaven if we watched 2 in a row!
I think he's inching his way back to you. I think watching movies with you is his way of feeling closer to you.
For me, when we finally did make love again, I knew we were going to make it...that was the final sign before we moved back in together. I suspect that when that happens for you, it will mean that he's ready to jump in with both feet, although he'll still be scared.
Make sense?
Even now, my husband and I are intimate once a week only.
Something amusing though. I was in the shower this morning and he was downstairs. When I got out of the shower, my kitty was meowing to me so I started talking to her. Husband came upstairs and told me he could hear me talking to her.
I said, "Uh oh, if you could hear that, then when we have kids, they'll hear us making love."
He responded, "I can just imagine, 'Dad, why does mommy scream every night?"
I laughed and said, "Every night? You promise?!!"
Giggle...ain't going to happen...but it was really nice to hear him say that!
I believe you'll get there Kitti Kat...just keep being patient...he'll trust you and love you even more for it.
