Cor74, I think you need to stay in Newcomers a while longer.
Your W was attracted to you when she saw you being stronger, plus when you threaten to leave. However, she will not continue to assure you that everything is okay. It's not attractive for a man to ask.
Your W is addicted to the feelings she experienced while in the A with OM. Her attempts at working on her M might have been sincere, but she struggled at not contacting him. Google PEAS and find out more information on this subject.
Those dopamine responses are real to her. Obviously if you could understand what's happening and help to change her reality so that you generate dopamine and oxytocin reactions in her.
