Maybe he's never been rational? Because he's talked about these things to me several times before. And I told him today that his speaking of other women to his wife was not IMO a good marital practice. Said I think that might be part of our sitch, that he thinks of me more as a friend (or his word confidante) than a wife. He didn't disagree.

IDK urworthy. I've read some accounts here at DB and the spouses talk about how the M went from wonderful to horrible. Mine wasn't horrible before the bomb, but it was far from wonderful. It was manageable, passable. Then the EA and accompanying garbage. So that leaves me wondering what I'm "standing" for? A return to pre EA days? I don't know if its worth it.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.