He is probably PO at the thought of me getting a lawyer. He will mad about the money it will cost. No way in the world I would go into a divorce with him in charge. He is NOT in his right mind. He can't remember stuff I told him a week ago. Plus, he's making stupid decisions that already effect my life. I'm happy with my lawyer.
I will NEVER serve him with papers. That is crazy that he said it. Maybe he was pushing me. There have many days that I have wanted to walk away from all this. But, I never have and I don't see myself doing it.
You have pretty much said the exact same words that I have prepared to send him the next time he asks about any of this. I stopped sending him emails. I answer the ones he sends me, eventually. I don't plan on giving him any more money info. I'm not sending him an itemized list of what I spend money on. I don't want him knowing what I do. It's nothing exciting, but I still don't want him to know
I have to preface this before I write the next few sentences. I am a woman who family comes first. I work at one of the High Schools in town with special needs teenagers. I teach them functional skills to help them when they graduate. I go to all my Ds things, even the one in college. I dress nicely, not slutty. I don't use bad words (not often anyway . I wear name brand clothes and carry Coach or Vera Bradley purses. So, anyway you get the idea of my being.
But, I do have a little bit of a "fun" side. I got my belly button pierced about 10 years ago, just because I thought it would be fun. Recently I got two fairly small tattoos . They're in a place that I think looks good and sexy, but they are not distasteful. I love them, that's all the matters. I do drink on occasion, but rarely get drunk. I like to open my sun roof on my car, roll down the windows and crank up my Bose speakers and listen to (and usually sing along) Def Lepard, "Pour Some Sugar on Me". I am the cool Mom and the Kool-Aid Mom all wrapped into one.
So, I do use the joint account to the place where I got my tattoos and belly ring.It's also a store. They sell adult stuff on one side that's closed off and Toms shoes on the other side. I want him wondering what I'm buying in there. Plus, I have been putting all my Victoria Secret purchases on the joint account debit card. Even if its for my Ds. I want him wondering. Not if I'm having an affair, but that I'm not on the floor in a heap. I think I'm going with a friend this weekend to an upscale bar. That will be on the joint account too. I know he'll realize what I'm trying to do, it's pretty clear. But, it's a little different than how I was before. I want for him to see a more outgoing/wild side. BTW, he's never seen the tattoos.
I think I'm doing better with how I'm handling the email situation. That's all I get, emails.....so personal.
. I wear name brand clothes and carry Coach or Vera Bradley purses. So, anyway you get the idea of my being.