You will be her target for any negative feelings she experiences. Expect it b/c it will happen. But you don't grade the R or how you're doing by what she says or does. She may be nice one day....doesn't mean a thing. She may be awful the next day....doesn't mean a thing. So you don't think things are better just b/c she showed a little consideration one day, and neither do you think it's over if she bites your head off the next. She's an emotional mess and it's probably going to get worse before it gets better.

H's are in a bad place when trying to get their W to see a doctor about their hormones. When the couple hasn't been having sex, she usually thinks he just wants her to get fixed so he'll get sex. If she's having a lot of emotional or nervous problems, she still thinks he just wants her fixed. Well, who wouldn't want her fixed when she's like that? But he's usually not the one to suggest it. If her sister really wanted to help her, she would suggest her seeing a specialist, and maybe she already has.

You sound like a guy most women would like to have around the house! I don't know how you're able to do all that you do after you get home from work. If you have always done that much, maybe she doesn't know how to appreciate you or she takes it for granted.

It's probably tough to find time just for yourself, but you do need to do that as part of GAL.

In the meantime, you stay upbeat. She won't like it, but you stay upbeat anyway. You have had an awakening, so you go on and enjoy life. You can only make one person happy, and that's you. One day, she will have to learn that principle, also.

Don't allow her emotions to dictate your sound judgement, decisions, and beliefs. Stick to what you know is true and right. Sometimes, people are so scared of their S leaving them until they lose sight of what is really important in life. I've seen some pretty crazy things some LBS's are willing to do in order to have another chance with their WAS.

She is not well. You have got to be the one to remain healthy. Take very good care of yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually. Don't think of it as being selfish. It's necessary. Your family depends upon it.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!