Heather, You are trying to be rational in an insane situation. You can't rationalize w/someone who is not operating on all cylinders.
Leave it alone...there's no need to respond back to him right now. At least he apologized in a half @ss manner. Let it go for now.
How can he act like this? It's mlc baby! This is what they do and if you continue to have expectations every time he blinks his eyes at you, you are going to continue getting hurt and disappointed and yes angry. You have to learn to accept that he's not the man you married...he's very different right now and learn to accept him for who he is today. In his mind, he didn't lead you on...
Keep your emails, short and to the point. Mlcers can't read much more than 2-3 sentences at a time. The depression has their focus out of whack entirely. Also, mlcers have a way of "ignoring" comments that hit too close to home. Again, you brought up the ow and he's doesn't want to discuss that relationship w/her w/you. Leave her out of any conversations you have w/him. Why? Because you are pushing him right into her arms by talking about her...you are giving him ample justification as to why he continues to run to her and wants to protect her from you. You are actually helping the ow by doing this...don't help her...don't discuss her w/him at all.
I'll remind you once again...he's got a ways to go and you need to buckle up for the ride. Go back and re-read all of the responses that you've received from posters. I think you'll see that we all have advised you to go nc, don't discuss the ow or have relationship talks w/him right now and to keep your expectations at zero. We also have advised you to sit quietly, be patient and the answers will come. And, my favorite phrase...keep the focus on you, your family, your job and your home...allow God to work on him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
