You know your h better than we do...so, does he sound worried or happy about the fact that he thinks you have a lawyer?
Oh, I think your h is hoping that you will go ahead and get the ball rolling on a divorce. They have tunnel vision and I bet he was quite beside himself when you stated that you didn't want to meet w/a mediator. They don't think clearly and jump the gun on so much stuff.
If he asks again, just say "H, I do not want to meet w/a mediator. I did not address the subject of a lawyer in my response to you. No, you are not being served w/papers".
If this checking account is solely in your name, you do not need to be discussing it w/him. If he should question you about it again, just advise him that it is your personal account and you will not be discussing it w/him.
You have to nip his control in the bud when it comes to your personal checking account. It's none of his business. You've already advised him why you set it up and what the funds were being used for. You don't need to keep rehashing this out w/him, especially in text messages.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
