The other day, I asked her a simple question. I said you are going to sacrifice alot of good things in your life to be with this guy (kids, parent relationships, financially, etc) and what is this single guy sacrificing for you? He won't move up, he won't quit his job down there to be with a women who is sacrificing 15 years of her life. If i was this man and i knew a women was going to do this and if i truly loved her, i wouldn't wait, i would move up and find a job to be close to her.
Just trying to open her mind up, that fantasy land isn't that easy.
Originally Posted By: Am I Too Late
LS13, try as hard as you can to Not bring up those simple discussions about all the lives that will be affected and what she will be giving up.
That is pressure, and pushes her farther away. STOP It.
The talks you have with her are an attempt to guilt her back into reality. That will not work.
Good point Am I Too Late, I don't know how I missed that. The top quote is convincing /guilting behavior, which as you say, usually won't have the desired effect. But hey, a slip up here or there is not a big deal, we've all done that. Just make sure this isn't your game plan to get her back LS.
That comment came from her talking about R. She wanted to talk about the "Green" side of things. I didin't say she can't do it, i just said there are risks associated with her choices. I didn't bad mouth the OM but I felt, if she was going to sacrifrice her life for this, then he should be doing the same exact thing.
My gameplan isn't getting her back, its to be ready for whatever may happen at the end. I promised myself to never beg or plea for her to come back. If I change myself, its for myself. If I look good, its for myself. If I become the greatest dad, its for myself.
If she happens to notice and decided she is missing out on the fun, then great. I can talk about forgiveness. If she happens to leave, then I wish her all the luck in the world with the new man.
