Okay, but don't forget - women want to be close to make love, men want to make love to be close. Are you still holding him to things he said months ago? Does he even know you are still interested? When my H was withdrawing from me during the affair, he was still willing to "help" me with my problem of sexual frustration - maybe H would start back up again if you presented it to him that way - as just a way to help you deal with your sexual needs? Guys seem to understand that line of reasoning - and since it doesn't carry such an air of "commitment", it's not so scary.
The way you've both got things set up right now, there'll be no sex until everything is fine - but how can you get to that point without the positive bonding experience of sex???
