Dealing with the reality of separation

[PeteWyo]

I am with you on this. This is my fourth day with no contact. My W hasn't initiated contact in ten days. I am not sure if going dim is in my best interest either, but I know nothing else has worked.

Grateful, don't misunderstand me I think going dim was the right thing to do and I am not familiar with your situation, but for me it made sense. I guess in this case, I think that it is working a little, but I was more asking what to do about what my SIL said.

I think that going dim is a good way to make yourself more mysterious to her and wonder what is going on with your life and to see that you are making all these changes for yourself. 10 days isn't a long time. I haven't heard my W's voice since early September and I don't think I will for a while still. Hang in there. I am teaching myself patience as well. It would be a good 180 for you to consider (((())))