I have been on the Hero's Spouse. Funny how you get pieces of what you need from different places. I love what she has written on the OW and the affair down. Her description of why there was an attraction helped me to detach some and not take it personally.
SO HARD! The first six months I kept thinking..."This has GOT to be a dream. There is NOOOOO way this is happening to me and the kids--not with H. He'd never, ever do this." Felt so surreal.
The surreal is going away some, but still dumbfounds me what God expects us to deal with...And, after reading some other situations, I see how much more other spouses/families are living through. Unbelievable.
H had said last week he would babysit while I went out with my girlfriends tonight. I hadn't heard anything from him since I sent text on Sat night saying I didn't want him to come over yesterday. So I just sent a short text--"Not going tonight, Don't feel well, Thx anyway."
Haven't heard anything. Feel a bit disappointed. Isn't that crazy! This guy who dic-s me around and tells me he wants to be with his family, but then won't get rid of the OW~!! And, I'M Disappointed? What's wrong with this picture?
Much Love,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
