Dealing with the reality of separation

[PeteWyo]

Faunadc, we are on roughly the same time frame here in our sitch's, not only that but we are "pleasers" we LOVE to please out women and we will do anything they ask of us.

And like me you too are clinging to every little thing, a smiley face on a text, a hug that lasts a little longer than normal, a shred of information in a conversation etc... We view those things in such a light to continue "hope".

Where I am trying to put more stock in "hope" now is in myself. I am done hoping for my M to work. Now I have "hope" that I will come out of this stronger than before..

Keep working on you man..

I know, you are right. I did love taking care of her and doing things for her. She is just the kind of person that might not know she has the option to come back if she wants. I mean I told her that many time early on, but given her track record of selective hearing she has probably forgotten that and is still only concentrating on the bad. I can see her sitting there starting to question the decision that she has made but then telling herself, well, it's too late now. I am going to try to focus more on myself, I am just so used to focusing on my W and everything else. I guess I have never really taken the time to take care of myself and worry about my own feelings. That is probably what caused my anxiety in the first place!