Quote: 1) he really WANTS me to go (get a break from me) He really does not want you to go but wants to show you he trust you - I have done the same thing with C when she wants to do things with her family or friends, (albeit not for 7 weeks) 2) he will figure out while i am gone that he really doesn't need me and he won't want me to come back Think "as if" - he will figure out while you are gone that he really does want you back 3) he will find comfort in the arms of another (stupid i know, we are not intimate - he could do that now, and when we were intimate he was having an affair) True - but then confort and intenmatancy are two different things. If he was having an affair with someone else while still being intimate with you and he is still showing positive signs and steps then he is starting to get that picture and will come to realize that true confort is with you 4) i will find out that i really don't need HIM and wont want to come back home your detatching will actually pull him closer to you 5) that if something DOES happen then i will be blamed by friends and family - well goodness kitti, you were GONE for 7 weeks, what did you expect??? Who cares what others think - you are doing this for you and your R - sure you could make a mistake and there are always monday morning quarterbacks - you make the best decision you can and know in your own heart that you did your best
