deb - sounds like your applying all the db principles we have been giving YOU lately! LOL
pib - ya know, that could be - the one thing about my husband is that he has NEVER been alone, he went from living at home to marrying his first wife, divorcing, living with his brother and sil, marrying me - maybe he needs this eh as a chance to prove to himself that he CAN do it - but maybe he will also find out he doesn't WANT to! i can hope right???
ellie - i will be heading to outside sf, between sf and sac - i have posted in the just for fun forum about the northern area db get together, so hopefully i will be able to meet some, gosh i would LOVE to meet you in person, your my heroine
as far as the intimacy? it's been that way since the bomb, and the few times we have discussed it since then he has reminded me "that he doesn't feel THAT WAY towards me" - "doesn't want to give me hope" - "doesn't want to commit to the marriage again" - "wants to give me my freedom if i should want it" (this is because in our religion if we consumate our marriage after adultery, that means i forgive him and then i am not free to divorce)
he is still going thru many issues, so i just leave this one alone, and have for the last 3 months - and if you keep up with my sitch, it seems he is getting a bit closer as days go by
so in answer to your ? - i can't jump his bones, as much as i would like to!!!
