LS13, try as hard as you can to Not bring up those simple discussions about all the lives that will be affected and what she will be giving up.
That is pressure, and pushes her farther away. STOP It.
What GAL activities have you done that are for you only, not including your kids?
I'm not good at that either because my W left 9 months ago and i have 100% custody of our S-9. She visits him very inconsistently, so i have him with me wherever i go.
The talks you have with her are an attempt to guilt her back into reality. That will not work.
Good luck, but don't make her choices easier on her. Let her find in you, a man that she can respect.
Ed
Hi ED
I haven't brought up discussion about the lives she is going to impact. I think there has been plenty of discussion in the past (therapist, friends, family and myself). At this point nobody is trying to convince her to stay. I have to say her Parents are probably putting on the most pressure..I try to stop them but its their daughter. My last R talk was about letting her go. I told her, go find your happeniness. I will be behind her as much as possible. Told her, she always has a home if she wants to come back.
As for GAL, I have started to get in shape. Like in really good shape (6 pack abs is my goal). Ran 3 miles the other day. I am also reading more books. But to honest, alot of my activities are involved with Kids. 3 young boys (1 year old) is hard to just get away. Its okay, i love my activities with the kids. But taking care of 3 boys.....oh boy that is so tough. She made a comment about me dating other girls, I was like sorry with 3 boys, I won't have much time right now, maybe in 2-3 years when they get older
