3 Years after D-Day, part 2. Separated 9 Months.

[Am I Too Late]

Would it help if i recap highlights from the original thread?

I could do that later today from a computer at the library better than from my cell phone.

Basically, she has moved out nearly 9 months ago and had one short relationship that ended because she said he was a jerk. She also mentioned that she finally unfriended her 1st OM, who was her 1st boyfriend from when she was 17 years old from her facebook page, which she said she did when we were in MC 2 1/2 years ago, also because he wound up being a jerk. Her words, not mine.

She has a current OM who has been around for about 6 months now from the best i can tell. He too hangs out at the bars many nights till closing time, probably along with my W and her current drinking problem.

So, how long before the current OM falls into that category? Patterns?

I guess thats my status in her eyes too.

She still is very inconsistent with visiting our S-9.

I have all of the responsibilities for him and am glad i do. Especially since her 4 year relapse after 10 years of sobriety in AA.

I do only child-centered GAL activities and volunteer at his school and with theCub Scouts, with occasional visits each week to some friends homes.

I am working part time doing construction related sales for exterior remodeling to home owners, but am activating my old company, which i let sink due to only focusing my attention on restoring our marriage and ensuring proper child activities for our S-9.

I am looking forward to my next IC session tomorrow. He used to be our MC.

I am digging out of a financial hole that happened since d-day, September 27th, 2009. It is slow going, but i am making progress. Regrets..... I needed to do this a long time ago.

Prior to d-day, i was always ahead on all bills and 2 mortgages. I used my life savings to get through the past 3 years and am rebuilding very slowly.

I can not control how my W chooses to live her life, but her sobriety used to be the thing she was most grateful for and i Pray she finds her way back to it.

Ask whatever other details you might need to follow along for my growth and independence.

Thanks to everyone who has lent a hand or a 2 x 4 in my original thread.

Ed