You can really tell where people are in this journey by their posts, if they're working on themselves then their posts highlight a lot of self-reflection; but if they're mired in trying to fix their R, their posts are very spouse-based.
Very true mate. I feel like I've been slipping on the self front. Don't take me wrong. My 180s still stand and the progress I've done on myself is there to stay, but I've noticed how it's not been a huge focus lately. Thanks for pointing this out.
Still, on the relationship side of things, one should still see progress if one is to go on with what they are doing. I mean, yes I really want to be this great guy that is somewhere inside of me and I will never stop to work on this, but some of the things I'm doing now for my relationship have nothing to do with this. When I decide to pull back to help me detach and give wife time to miss me. How do I assess the progress on this?
When I see W seemingly coming around and spending more time at home with me and D8, and inviting me out. Is this really progress in my sitch? Or should this better me that I'm becoming not care about that?
Cheers mate!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
