Wow CV. I am amazed to hear you've gotten to this place. Proud of you!
It is so helpful to hear your perspective. I wonder if my H might be feeling the same way too - wanting to R but not knowing how, and feeling very scared of being burned again. A lot of people here have recommended Retrouvaille and it sounds like it might get the ball rolling for you two.
One thing I have resolved to try is having more open and honest discussions with my H. We have never been good at that, as simple as that seems. It is a shame because I think if I had felt safer with him in the first place, none of this would have happened.
Maybe try setting a few very small goals and see how that goes, just to get a toe in the water. And maybe communicate to your H that you want to try but are very scared. Do you think he could be gentle? And are you willing to allow him to step up to the plate?
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
