Realistic Optimist Hard At Work

[Just A Guy]

I think my anger is about the fact that W committed to R when BD #1 and to leaving no stone un-turned before making any decision when BD #2 happened. Not to mention M vows not once but TWICE (we had a large ceremony outdoors and a small W in a church as well).

Everything she is doing now is anti - staying together.. I am willing to set her on her mission but we are just sitting in limbo... Its so hard to move on when your in total limbo, there is no OM, no abuse, no depression. Just negativity towards the R and since we live together, sleep together and she still calls me her H and wears her rings its friggen frustrating...

She skirts around issues yet wants me to "grow a pair", she says she is tired of not hearing my feelings and emotions but when I tell her them she just bottles up her own. She agrees to read some books together and work on some exercises but when I say lets do them she backs out and I don't push because I dont want her to do it because of me pushing..

I am angry because my W lied to me this past B-day telling me "she loves the direction we are headed as a couple and as individuals, I have a feeling this is going to be our best year yet". I am mad because she felt desire towards another man but does not seem interested in feeling desire towards me.....