Hi Sandi2 - It's been a few weeks since I last posted. I have read your post over and over and agree with everything you said. My W and I have been living together since she asked me to come home. At first she was close but has become somewhat distant again. At times she can be very close and at other times it seems like she wants nothing to do with me. We do not kiss unless I initiatie it (and I seldom do to respect her space). We do not say I love you...although she said it once recently but not sure if it slipped out of her mouth. We have our routine with the kids and dinner etc. After the kids are in bed she will usually come sit next to me and ask that I rub her feet. That is the extent of me touching her. We continue to be intimate at times but she seldom initiates. She continues to be focusing on herself and is more interested in her work outings and staying out drinking. She does assure me that I have nothing to worry about in terms of any ongoing affairs as she is not interested in any of that. She admits that it was a mistake and that she just wants to have a social life. I have been supportive and even encourage her to have a social life. I have gotten her a hotel room a few times so that she does not have to worry about driving home from her work outings etc. We live in the same house and talk about long term plans but i feel lost without getting any affetion or attention from my W. It is painful for me not to be abe to kiss my wife or show her any affection. It feels like i am an afterthought and only when it is convenient does she have me in mind. I wil continue to post updates. Thanks
