So i think my sitch has changed because what I am hearing now is coming from close friends that are talking to my W about the situation.
Essentially i become a contest to pursue her again..Sounds silly considering I am her H with 3 kids. The only thing, i can do is DBing because I won't be able to wine and dine her with 3 kids.
Essentially she wants to make sure the person she loves is really the person she wants to be with.....I already mentioned, she felt she "settled" for me.
The only thing i know is, I was kind of scared of her moving out...but the more i think, the more she needs this. I want her to be stable in this and right now she is all over the place.
I consider this a form of cake eating again. Keeping me around for emergency use.............
My plan says to re-evaluate my needs after 6 months when she moves out. I wont' allow myself to be stuck in this situation after 6 months if I don't see significatant improvements. She either thinks I am good enough (with my new changes) or not. Not this limbo stuff.
I am also going to go and GQ myself....to make myself feel better and send a message saying...ya I ain't waiting around either. Create that mystery about myself. I encourge others, who haven't thought about this, do this for yourself. Have some fun.
