Thanks for the posts, over the last week my 180's seem to be having mixed results. I've been happier and more energetic around the house (even when it's the exact opposite of how I feel). I've also stepped up my help around the house. I think before it was a 50/50 split but lately I've been doing a lot more cooking, picking up, laundry, etc... A lot of the stuff I would only do if asked and she's thanked me a couple different times through the week. I'm finished with DB and almost through DR. I started reading LL a couple years ago but didn't make it far so that's next book on list.
Another small victory (for me at least) was Friday she went out with some friends and in the past my insecurities would have stressed me out and I'd have a pity party while she was gone that she didn't want to go out with me (I know stupid but I'm being honest). This time I didn't have those thoughts at all, I just played with kids then did a few things around house and had a nice night. In the past I'd wait up for her and start the 20 question game that never went well. I was going hunting with my son the next morning so said screw it and went to bed before she got home. She got home about 11:30 and I think it threw her for a loop that I was asleep. She came in bedroom and made as much noise as she could getting ready for bed. I just laid there and never said a word. Next day I asked how her night was and that was it.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
