Nick, great job, you're really sticking to the DBing quite well! Just keep in mind that DB'ing rarely generates instant results, so there was nothing really surprising about her reactions. It sounds to me like she's been thinking about asking you to move out of the MBR for some time and just looking for an excuse to spring it on her. It wasn't a response to your DB'ing I don't think. You handled it great- stood your ground, kept your cool, practiced great DBing through loving validation. Don't get discouraged, stick with it. You're introducing her to unexpected change in the R, good change. She doesn't want good change yet, she wants you to be the bad guy to "prove" she's right. You're not doing it and she's not happy about it. It'll take time for her to get over the anger/ resentment and start asking herself if this new you is for real.
