What's 2x4? From context I gather a suggestion that is uncomfortable for me?
You must not read other threads much, the term is used a lot here It's as in slapping you with a 2x4 upside the head. Or as you said, suggestions that you may not be comfortable with or may not want to hear.
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I'm just trying to be prepared:She knows the boys have birthdays, and I will take them out. I'm pretty sure she will ask to go. I need to answer her without getting into what will turn into a R discussion like the other day.
How about this: "Can I go along for the birthday dinner?"
"I'd rather you didn't, I don't feel comfortable with that while you're living with OM. You should make your own arrangements with the kids to take them out for their birthdays."
Again, you have got to remove yourself from the equation. Detach. Let her start dealing with the fallout from her decisions.
It's as in slapping you with a 2x4 upside the head. Or as you said, suggestions that you may not be comfortable with or may not want to hear. 