It is apparent that you are reluctant to take a strong stance in fear of upsetting or pushing your W further away. I understand your fear. I lived it myself.
It sounds to me like you have already decided to send the first email. Is that fair to say? Please keep us updated on how that plays out.
As far as asking if there is another man, if it is going to ease your mind, then ask. I'll be honest with you, I doubt she will be as forthcoming with you as you hope. Why? Because she has it easy with right now.
You are trying to show her through words that you might fight for your child. Actions speak louder than words. It's cliche, but it is absolutely true.
DB'ing is not a tactic. It is a way of living.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
