The Lure of the Siren

[Arsene]

You have made a plan, and your plan is to be honored.


Arsene: What is your short-term (2-3 wk) goal? What will your W or the 2 of you be doing? How will YOU know if your plan is working.

Thanks DBmod,

Following the advice of many posters, I've reached the conclusion that I should remain friendly and open to talks with W but to try and not be so readily available and give her more space.

I plan to achieve this by working harder on GAL and making efforts to turn down (in a nice way) some (if not most) of Ws requests for time together.

I hope that by doing this, W might begin to realise what she is missing but the number one goal is for me to be able to detach and not be overly affected by every things she says or does.

I'll know that my plan is working by how affected I am by W's actions and words and how focused I am on myself. Signs that W is affected by my new behaviour would probably be that she either withdraws back to her anger or makes more efforts to get closer.

How does that sound to you?