I have read many sitches in the forum and I've read Dobson's Love Must Be Tough. For the time being, I have made the decision to follow a softer approach, right or wrong, as I believe it is what is best for now for my situation. I don't think I'm doing anything which would hurt my sitch and quite frankly, I don't think I'm in any more(or any less) pain than people who choose the harder approach.
You have made a plan, and your plan is to be honored.
Arsene: What is your short-term (2-3 wk) goal? What will your W or the 2 of you be doing? How will YOU know if your plan is working.
DB team:
It't not ours to tell Arsene what his goals are. That gets mixed up in these conversations. The DBer determines their goals. We help them. Choosing what we think ought to be their goals is not DBing.
