Yes, this is a marriage-recovery site, but I have found that those who have sucessfully DB'd almost always do so because they first sucessfully recovered THEMSELVES. I think that's what Cutter is trying to get you to see, and many of you are shooting the messenger.
Just to set the record straight Starsky. I have absolutely nothing against Cutter or what he has to say. I think I've made it clear all along that I do welcome every opinion as they help me to better assess my choices.
What I do have a problem with is the actual delivery. As I said earlier, I don't need sugar-coating but I don't feel like I should come on my thread and be made to feel like an idiot because I'm doing what I think I should do.
Again, all of us here have had intensive "advanced communication skills" training through DB and we should all know that being judgmental, critical, passive aggressive and insulting are not ways to communicate a message effectively.
I am saying all of this with all due respect for Cutter and his opinion and hope he will continue to contribute to my progress under these "boundaries".
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
