W filed, I think we can make it work - what to do?

[Breakdown]

In one of your posts you mentioned you read a good book about trust, do you remember what book?

It was The Courage to Trust, but I'd put that as 4th behind the others mentioned. It helped me with negative thoughts more than anything else. We talked a lot about trust and the fact that it's a choice in our Retrouvaille, so that helped too. Still, it's a struggle at times.

We haven't said a word about marriage or divorce since our Halloween night fight and wasn't sure if this is a good sign or not. I know I shouldn't say anything but I'm not sure she will ever because not her style.

I wouldn't bring it up unless she does at this point.

She's also the type that once she's made a decision it's done and usually no turning back which is worrisome in this situation.

I know exactly what you mean. My W is the same way. Honestly, I think it's been one of our problems in reconciling, as she feels like she's already made the decision to D and now she has to follow through. But this is where applying pressure hurts you. If you start talking about your M, she'll likely default to D because she's already said it. My W continues to do that.

I would rather just have a Thanksgiving at home with my family but not sure if that's best for current situation???

If neither you nor your W enjoy going, then I wouldn't do it. Life's too short. Do what you want to do. But don't do it because you think you're doing your W a favor...do it because it's what you want.