The Lure of the Siren

[25yearsmlc]

Hey JAG,

You are right about that. Actually, W texted me twice tonight to invite me out for dinner (even said she'd buy). As I was really busy, it felt good telling her that I was busy with something and that I couldn't join them.

nothing wrong with this^^. She will learn nothing if SHE gets to pretend all is well if and when she feels like coming home or getting her "family fix."

OTOH when your d said you'd been a good boy but your w does not believe it - instead of saying your w is the bad girl, '"Jokingly" ,

you could have asked why w didn't believe it...or "Jokingly" promised the changes are real. I think every thing said there had truth darts in it. BUT

I doubt your w thinks SHE is being evil, at least not consciously. So what did that conversation achieve?


All the same, I just got home and the car is still here which leads to believe she went home with OM.

2nd time you make this assumption but do NOT KNOW, so why bother going there? Does it help you at all?

I know it happens and I expect it to happen but I'm always gutted when it does.

Stop gutting yourself...

and Kudos to you for finding your own path. If you read Dobson then you know the approach and have chosen this MWD DB approach instead. You have the right to do that and besides this is a DB site anyhow.

Stick to whatever approach you take and give it enough time to assess. I don't think you've been at DBing for long ( I know you haven't) and sometimes folks just see HER timeline, not yours.

Keep on keeping on but I'd sure like to hear some of those details in your vision of what life would look like

if you were single and happy...or NOT single but not with your w.

What does you being single and happy look like?