heyhi- sorry to hear you're so blue. i wish i did have a magic wand. it is hard to get "un stuck" with all this. when i am arund h - it's easier to envision leaving. when i'm not- all the old nostalgia floods in a bit (a bit!) and that makes it harder. so, maybe that's something?]\\\\
what i was going to say before - is that the whole thing of splitting physically - as in two households - i think a couple things. i think it makes it easier for them to (if they're going to) forget us. my gut says it- if we're not in their face- who is to say they don 't find it a hell of alot easier to screw aorund, etc. look at me and my sitch!Q
i read a statistic somewhere that said when you guys split up- a woman's lifestyle/income decreases by 74% and a man's increases by 45% - something like that. i believe it.
AND THEN - wonder/worry- if he's shocked by the reality of paying for two households- guess whose household is going to lose if h decides he doesn't want the burden of two. yours. mine - he wants to date- it takes $$ - would he rather spend it on his own amusement or yours? i hate to make them sound shabby- but i think they are a self-serving - self-preservation lot of guys. if it's you or him- i'm afraid it's you - that suffere. me too - i don'tw'ant to have any optimism. '
i just think this kind of stuff. tho, my overall plan if i've got to get the heck out of his life is to have a job in place (if possible) so taht i can afford myself and buying him out without too awful of a struggle - and i'm pretty used to being poor - or feeling poor- but it was always nice to have someone there to share life with- and who wasn't poor - also paying the bills.
