If you had two options to choose from and you knew the outcome of both but could not change anything, what would you choose?
1: You and your S would stay together and live a relatively happy life together. You would live in bliss but you S would just be happy. Happy enough but not in bliss.
2: your S could go live in bliss with another S but you would live your life happy but not blissfully,..
What would you choose?
I see your point, but I can't really give a straight answer on this one
Because. And this may seem cynical.
Blissfully is not a word I would use in terms of life. I think extremely few people go through life truly blissfully, but many feel they should. Many aspire to.
An example. Many of my female friends/acquaintances talk about how bad they want a family(H,children,house etc)and how perfect things would be. Many of them got a man, had children, maybe a house. Then, shortly after everything went down the drain.
Why? Do they set the bar so high and disappoint themselves? Are they expecting some miracal cure for all problems, and don't realize how much effort it takes to make things work?
No ones life is perfect, and if you only focus on how perfect life -should- be, then you miss out on the already good life you have.
Sorry, a lot of rambling here.
You are obviously thinking, reflecting, growing. Sweet! Even though it hurts you stay strong and you try to evolve instead of just shutting your eyes, ears, brain and giving in to the pain.
I can relate to your feelings, it's hard sometimes not to act on them. H*ck, most of the time it is.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
