you say you deflected, Can i ask how? That's something i'm struggling with. My H asks me questions too and i can't just say it's none of your business. So how do you deflect and not answer?
Your improving in you conversations! Well done.
I didn't deflect as good as I could have, but I said something like "If something matters I will tell you, right now we have to concentrate on being parents for S" I stalled a bit though.
Originally Posted By: Coach
Remain mysterious.
"Oh it's nothing, just a consequence of one of my new hobbies."
Mysterious, busy, alive and detached is catnip. Make sure she notices something new about you the next time she sees you and let her bring it up.
I told her it was probably my own nails from my mad stretching skills I aquired after starting training again.
One of the things that annoyed her was me always trying new hobbies/sports etc b/c it was time consuming. So it's probably more expected than mysterious, regardless though, it's good to get out there and be alive.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
