I have thought about it. This is my second marriage. My first W also left, for similar reasons actually but I didn't know DB then and blamed her until very recently. Fortunately, there weren't any children in my 1st marriage and we each went our different ways, no harm done.
I was single for a few years with the occasional relationship and one day I got over my 1st W and was happy by myself. A few months later, I met my W and the rest is history (literally).
I found these two nuggets really interesting.
IMHO, Arsene, you would be better off working more on your co-dependence issues than you would be necessarily on MARITAL issues. I think if you could get to the root of "why doesn't Arsene think he'll be okay if he's alone?" you might find your clues to your marital problems.
Yes, this is a marriage-recovery site, but I have found that those who have sucessfully DB'd almost always do so because they first sucessfully recovered THEMSELVES. I think that's what Cutter is trying to get you to see, and many of you are shooting the messenger.
