I just wanted to stop by and show you my support. You are getting a lot of valuable advice from different perspectives and it looks like you are absorbing it all and thinking about what you think is best in your situation at this time. I also see you keeping an open mind and a willingness to change when you feel it's needed - keep that perspective going.
I completely agree with labug - you have to go through this on your own, based on what you think is best for you. As long as your motivations and intent are good and you keep yourself in check, you will be ok. Things will fall into place as they need to.
Stay strong!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D