Stop this crazy train I want to get off!!!

[wishing, hoping]

By the way, he's only saying all those things because HE feels guilty and HE wants to feel better about himself. He's very insincere.

Thanks Mr. Bond. He had me in his corner up until the very last line of the letter which read something to the effect of "if we aren't careful we stand to lose a lot." I am sure he is scared about what he will be required to give me and is starting to wonder about how all this is going to affect his bottom line when it is all said and done. I knew it was manipulation. And I ALMOST fell into the trap. Almost! Then I Pulled myself out of dysfunction junction, grounded myself and was calm and cool in my replies to him. He was not expecting that.

I am a different woman than I was 5 months ago. I am stronger and I am more self assured and I know his real intentions. I am so sick and tired of him trying to get me to buy into his bad behavior and trying to get me to accept it as okay. It's not okay. I will never say it's okay.

For a split second that line about "I have no romantic feelings for you" started bringing back the sadness and the self doubt. I am proud of myself for staying grounded.

[wishing, hoping]

Feeling sick. Back on the roller coaster.

Just happened to find a receipt for an engagement ring. In OW's birthday. Seriously. Just when I think I have gained strength something else comes up. I don't know how much more I can take. I really feel like thrown away garbage right now.

[BklynMom]

It makes me so mad when I read your post. I mean seriously he is getting it on with another woman and buying her jewelry yet blaming you for the demise of the R. It is illogical.

How could it not register to this man what he is doing to his kids? Why would you even what this guy back - I think that about my H all the time.

Focus on yourself and your kids. You are so lucky to have 2 healthy kids that you will watch grow. One day you will see them become adults and find love and happiness. Teach your kids how to be strong, beautiful and peaceful.

Try to ignore the schmuck. He is truly a fool

[wishing, hoping]

Thanks BK. I needed to hear that. He is a fool. And so is OW. Seriously? You are engaged to a man who is not even divorced yet? And won't be for a while yet? Really?

I deserve so much better and so do my kids. This is just insane.

[Soul.Searching]

You do derserve better Wishing, you really do. ((( )))

[wishing, hoping]

Hi there soul searching

Thanks for posting. My head is just spinning. I suspected from the beginning this might happen. I was hoping I would be wrong.

I just need to keep myself and my kids off this crazy wagon. I guess he is thinking third time is the charm?

[wishing, hoping]

And so H wants to go to the annual Christmas parade with us today. So we put on the dog and pony show and act one big happy family. He even sets up our chairs so we sit by each other. He wanted us all to ride together in his vehicle and I declined. I told him I would drive myself. I think that ticked him off.

And whenever I was talking to a friend H was close at hand. All my friends were giving me looks like "what's going on?" to which I just shrugged and said IDK.

So it becomes more and more clear to me that H wants to continue his life business as usual just replacing me with OW. Sorry but that stings. It stings a lot.

[WenikiTiki]

This stuff is hard. No getting past that. OW in my case posted photos of a ring she supposedly got from my then H. Our papers were filed, though. It doesn't really matter.

All of our spouses are going to do what they want to. We just need to stand back and let them have at it. As some wise person told me early on.

You are not garbage. You are a good person who is doing the best she can! Look in the mirror and smile and be kind to yourself.

Aloha,

Wendy

[wishing, hoping]

Thanks Wendy. You're right. He is going to do what he's going to do. I have no control over that. It just makes me mad. Really mad. I have given everything for H and my kids and this is how I get repaid? I am not trying to have a pity party, but I am angry. I am trying to move past this. This one will take some time.

I really appreciate and look forward to all the advice and comments on my thread. I relish each and every one. I need to keep saving myself.

[SunnyBurst]

Thanks Wendy. You're right. He is going to do what he's going to do. I have no control over that. It just makes me mad. Really mad. I have given everything for H and my kids and this is how I get repaid? I am not trying to have a pity party, but I am angry. I am trying to move past this. This one will take some time.

I really appreciate and look forward to all the advice and comments on my thread. I relish each and every one. I need to keep saving myself.

I hear ya -- it does seem like the person who does the least in the relationship is the one that goes all MLC - that's weird but seems accurate --

Nice insight - and I hope you feel better !!!

Sunny