My W is thinking about quiting her job and working for her family's business, which is in another state. She'd start working two days a week, staying overnight at her folks. But it's a really demanding job and she loves LOVES to work so I suspect it would quickly grow. This worries me for a couple of reasons: (1) we just started recovering from a tough couple of years and things have been pretty good, (2) she has a hisotry of making promises to get me to agree to something then, later, thinking that since things have changed there is no logical reason to fell bound by a promise (like I will only stay two days a week), and (3) it seems to me that she'd be starting a secon life in another state with a new job and friends that I wouldn't be a part of. I offered to quit my job and relocate the family- so she gets both- but she doesn't want to take the kids away from their friends and schools. So I agreed to two days max, with the understanding that the first time it is three days I put our house on the market. Help- her family is coming for thanksgiving and it's to be discussed. Reasons they want her to come to the business is that it solves a bunch of personel problems that could be solved in other ways. She won't discuss her thoughts. Advice? I am trying to hold a hard-earned marriage together.
