D18 knows what the OW looks like-she has met the OW because she was a mutual friend. D18 has temper problems and I don't trust what she will do in the OW's presence. She told me afterward that she had this grand plan to "let" the OW know what pain she has caused our family.
This is what I did. I sent a text saying that I was sorry he felt like unloaded on him and I could see how it felt that way...
"This is all very confusing. I know you're hurting and I want to be there for you but the third person makes it very hard for me. If you want to come to help tomorrow, that's fine but I may leave and you can spend time with the girls. Let me know what time. Thx."
He responded "Thanks. sorry this is hard on you.it's hard on me too. i'll let you know"
He also apologized to D18 and said he wished he had gone to the college visit.
Would be nice to hear something like "I miss YOU"
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
