I didn't allow myself to be baited again and I had to interact with him several times. He was moving things into the storage building closer to the house due to all the thefts and I asked would you like some help? He told me no. He cut his hand and I asked would you like a band aid? Again he told me no. While I was in the building I saw my xmas tree sitting there but the stand was lost last year then we found it again of course in Jan. Anyway I asked do you remember what we did with that tree stand? Kids are wanting to get the tree up early. He ignored me. Daughter asked and he answered her.
Later I did ask- are you always going to be mad at me? He countered with are you always going to make me mad? I just didn't even respond. No point. Could someone seriously think they will never feel angry in a relationship? Duh.
It is his tone of voice and the snide things he says. It's like talking to a 15 yr old with a chip on their shoulder. It's maddening. He does goad me for the reaction. It is exactly what I said before- that is his proof of how awful I am. It's interesting that he is gone and oh so happy and still he does it every single time I see him or talk to him. Every single time. I strongly suspect he isn't as happy as he thought he was going to be. Good. I hope things continue on their wonderful trajectory. I need to keep detaching.
Not once did I shout or raise my voice or really get into the emotional stuff. So that IS an improvement.
