Thanks for asking. Yes, I'm ok. H apologized on Thurs via text. He said "I feel like if f---ed up horribly. I miss my family and my home horribly. I'm truly sorry." He put the dog down on Tuesday and came by to bury him.
He came over on Mon, Tues and Weds. He wanted to come over on Thursday and I told him NO. I said I needed some clarity on what was going on with OW. I was not going to be a third party or plan B. He said "You've never been Plan B."
I said that until she was out of the picture, then he needed to make other arrangements to see the girls.
So, yesterday, we went on a college visit. He stopped by and let the dog out for us. He left before we got home. The girls were a bit disappointed. He came over again today to let the oil out of the car.
Today, he asked if he could come over tomorrow. The girls are home. D18 was struggling with him coming over again tomorrow.
When he came in the house, I blew it. I told him, for our sake, he couldn't just come over and hang out. If he wanted to have a relationship with the girls, he could make plans with them elsewhere. If he was still in a relationship with OW, then he couldn't come over and act the part of this family. I wasn't opening myself up for more hurt. He admitted the OW was still in the picture and that he spends "alot" of time at her house.
He became defensive and turned. He said he was just trying to help me because he still pays the mortgage. I got upset, by this time, he had said things about still seeing the OW that made me angry and hurt. I blew some-- Said this isn't his house anymore. I pay a good portion of the bills and he laughed. I made it clear I didn't think it was funny.
Then he blew and said, "I tried to come over and fix things and I got dumped on again. Maybe I will come over tomorrow with a trailer and take all of my stuff."
He said more--it won't sink in until later. There were things he said that I think were between the lines stuff that he said giving a hint of what's really going on. He did apologize to D18 and he did say he misses his family.
He never says he misses ME.
I'm so confused. I feel like I screwed up. I was doing OK until today.
That's the scoop.
Thoughts?
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
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