Sandi2 warned me to expect worse in my last thread and I have been picturing certain events and how I will react. This one caught me out as it was from a time before W has said there were issues. But ur right it does not change the plan. I am not going to read stuff in future either. Even though the box fell out I could have just as easily put the emails and letters back without reading anything. Talk about set yourself up for a fall!
I am starting to understand what she must be going through. This forum helps with that and I am doing my research - understanding what I am dealing with helps. We talk but mostly day to day type stuff. She occasionally drops in something about herself, like her wondering if she is premenopausal but will usually clam up and change the subject quickly. Never asks how I am etc but she has been generally nicer. Like she respects me more through thanking me, showing signs of appreciation and there have been no spews for a couple of weeks now. She still asks for my direction on certain matters which is good.
She tells me more about her day - although generally to do with her house. I find talking about her place difficult and she has not invited me to see it yet.
So on the respect side, I think I am making v small ground. But the connection is a tough one esp with OM. I am trying to give her all the space I can at the moment, validate where I can and keep going with my 180s so they become part of me. This will be a v long one!
