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[PeteWyo]

heartbroken, welcome! You will get some great advice here. Can you provide a little more information on your R. The more detailed you are, the more others can help you. What was the relationship like in the beginning? Were you going out with him more? Was his drinking as bad in the beginning? It sounds like he may have a problem with that but hard to tell from your original post. When you say it was really bad when it was bad, what caused those bad times? Was it always about his staying out too late? How did you approach him when you didn't agree with what he was doing? I guess the important thing to remember is that right now you don't have any control over what he does and how he feels. Think about what has changed and figure out why. You guys got married for a reason. All you can do is detach, work on yourself and make yourself the best person you can be. Make yourself the better option. If you think there is another woman, make him see that he would be a fool for leaving. There are no guarantees here, all you can do is make YOU the best you possible. Read the DB book and you should also read DR. Sounds like he is moving things along very quickly here, is there more back story, how long has it been since he originally dropped the bomb?