Interesting thread you posted. You should go read at the outcome of the posters on that thread. As I know most of those posters on this forum and in the real world.
Yes you do, and there is certainly much value in that. But how many relationships do you actually know the outcomes of? Dozens? Hundreds? Are they primarily from this board? What about the hundreds of thousands of other ones? I doubt there are any valid statistics regarding overall outcomes per technique here. Not that it would even matter if there was, since every situation is different, and what works in one relationship may be a game ender in another.
Like with the “After the Last Resort Technique” advised by many in this thread. Michele in DR:
[quote=MWD]However, you shouldn’t do it (After the last resort technique) unless you are prepared to end your marriage because that’s just what it might do. However, it might serve as a wake-up call to your spouse that you love him/her enough that you are prepared to let go, then back off completely. Don’t spend time together. Don’t speak on the phone unless it’s about you children. Have as little face-to-face contact as possible. Don’t do nice things anymore. Don’t call. Don’t e-mail. Don’t initiate contact of any sort. Don’t allow your spouse to feel that there is a relationship between you any longer. Continue this emotional cutoff until your spouse gets the point that there will be no relationship of any sort until the OP is completely out of the picture.
This last, last-resort technique is one that will force you to take a strong stand. It’s not for the faint of heart. Once you make the statement that you’re done, you have to be willing to follow through. If you waffle, you will lose all of your credibility. So don’t use this method unless you’re prepared to see it through all the way to the end.[/quote]
Is the Last –Last Resort Technique truly the best chance for Arsene to save his marriage and propel him to the new marriage he wants with his wife? Is he ready to make this move, or for the possible consequences of it?
You mention that the LBS being too eager to please the WAS seems to be a theme here. So does the rush/push to the “After the Last Resort Technique”, I’d say.
Like our buddy Cadet likes to say, this is all a crap shoot, there are no guarantees.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
