Well he texts again - where are you? this was at 12:30. He claims he sent me a text saying he would be at his dads at 12 to see the kids. (I never ever got it. Still haven't) I responded with we are at the library leaving in 15 min. why? I'm at dads want to see kids. I responded with Sorry. Why didn't you call to make arrangements then. He was saying how he sent me a text blah blah. I just stayed calm although I did say you created this situation. He said whatever then started on me. I did get tired of his mouth and hung up on him. I sent another text saying This is the only time I will do this. In the future call the evening before. D12 isn't even here she stayed with a friend and S14 actually has plans. I have told you, you can see them whenever just give me notice and I do NOT want them around OW at this time. IC and I both feel it would be too difficult for them now.
So I get them up there and call him. When will you be leaving? His typical snide self. Why? What's it to you? I have things I need to do and it would be helpful to know when I should be back. I can stay just as long as I need to. So he said well I am going to call S14 phone since you blocked the other one. Which I did. I responded with - I didn't want to talk to you. Him- I wasn't calling to talk to you anyway. Me- That's fine but it was also to keep OW from her stupidity too. Then he starts again. I knew as soon as I came up here you would start. I knew blah blah blah. I shut my mouth. Never responded again. He hung up on me.
My perception- He's not at all thrilled with his situation. Of course- he is blaming it on me. Also, he is still not respecting my boundaries and really what I am asking is NOT in any way unreasonable. I would expect to know that from anyone they were visiting with. Not just him.
My thoughts are that if he tries to do this again, I will not make any exceptions in the future. He either respects the boundaries or the kids don't go. The problem is - it hurts them. However, the whole purpose behind it is to try to get him to be consistent and be here when he says he will be. They would get terribly upset before. We have a picture window and they would sit in front of it waiting. Sometimes they waited as long as 2 hours. I do know that this time, his father is the one that called him and tried to get him to set up visits. That's just appalling. He is almost 50 and can't even do this.
