SS, it didn't really go that way. I understand what you are saying about letting him know I wasn't happy. It's a fine line I think. Because if you pretend everything is alright and it isnt, that's not good either. Yes, you're probably right about ordering it myself. But that can be emasculating too.
About the dishes. No, it's not the hill I want to die on but it's not turning into that either. My H doesn't take a lot of responsibility or initiative around the house in general. Last week I asked him to go to the hardware store and texted him a list. He came back with one thing and forgot about the list. This kind of thing happens routinely and it's frustrating.
I try not to get upset but every so often I do, especially if I am getting no support from H emotionally or otherwise. It is very difficult to sustain this day in, day out. It feels very unfair. I try to give my H small manageable tasks. I asked him to be the "steward" of the boys room and so far he hasn't embraced that either. So this is what I am dealing with and have been for a long time. It's getting old.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
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