The Lure of the Siren

[chatterbug]

You follow the motto a happy wife is a happy life.

That is your mistake. You repeat it over and over. You say you have a plan and that you will get there in time. But your actions and words do not match up. When it is pointed out to you the defence and reflections start up. The difference between my saying it to you and a few of the other guys here is that I am saying it minus the sugar coat. You have a whole site here to read. History that goes back almost 13 years. You have the choice to read and see what works and what does not. You have the choice to read where people came back and said the mistakes they made that put them into the same place. You have people here who have saved their marriages and people here who are in piecing and working on their marriages. You have people here who saved themselves.

There is three consistent themes through the successful ones.

Boundaries. Self Respect. Personal Growth.

1 out of 3 does not cut it.

Nor does hope.

I could go through and post your theme over and over throughout the history of this site. But that is for you to discover. There is no offense nor do i take it personal. I freely offer my help on this site. If I did not want to I would leave.

Your other big problem is that you do not think this.

Tough approach = Boundaries. Self Respect. Personal Growth.

You have it in your mind that tough approach means being an ass and shaming and being selfish.

Why? Because it takes away from the equation of a Happy wife is a happy life.

What you going to do in December when your self time limit hits its mark?

When I read your words I think.

All thrust and no vector.

If you want me off your threads say so. I will stop writing. But if you want those nagging thoughts in the back of head stirred every once in awhile then I will continue to write this theme to you over and over.