Not sure if you read BOTH my posts. I have owned my wrongs w/kids. Again, some were even pointed out by D.
It seems my best option dealing w/birthday date, when she asks again, is to say not all the kids are ready for that. Assuming S20 is still against it. Rather than explaining to her his reason, let her figure it out or ask him.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.