Studies in Feral Cats, part 4

[reachingHigher]

So, T^2, I hadn't really realized your W has been in MLC since 2008. Same as my H.
I REALLY FEEL for you!! I'm so tired of this crap! So ready to be done! So ... done.

But then my H cries and looks at me, and I feel so much pity for him trapped in his tiny world, wanting so much to break out of it but can't.

Or he chases me like a teenager wanting that affection and sex just to put a bandaid on it for a while. It reminds me of better days and it's too easy to want to go there.

But then I hafta hear about him looking for a new true love, the real love of his life. She is out there somewhere he says (not sitting in front of him holding his hand or stroking his chest, obviously).

I never pictured having to grow and learn in life as coming from a situation like this. But in a strange sort of way (like a broken bone that healed wrong and has to be rebroken) I AM glad I have the opportunity to be here for my own growth.

I'm not so sure I'm glad of the opportunity to help my H. Wish someone else had done the job years ago. But here we are and I'm determined to make lemonade outta my lemons!

Now some focus on you. You've put so much thought into your W. You are the perfect combination of brain, braun, romance and sensitivity (the music). It drives me wild to see/hear a manly man write/sing about the depths of his soul.

Your W should be so grateful for what she has in you. And maybe she really is! But she has this history of pain caused by her father that I (and many people) have never had to experience. And a history in her heart of how she has reacted to that. I've never had that. I can't imagine that kind of past. I'm so sorry for her. For you.

But you said a long time ago, something like, maybe that's why we are here. To help them. It's so hard to help someone who keeps pushing you away, but we've got to do it.

Thanks tons for your influence all over this board. The time you spend absorbing, writing, helping, encouraging. We are all so grateful.