I really stink at this sometimes. My dad came over today to help with a project I have going at home. Turned out that my mom came with to help with the kids while I was working, and my BIL came to help as well. Both my mom and BIL are pretty upset with my w. So when w dropped the kids off they were extremely cold towards her. After she left she called to express her disappointment and to ask if I would warn her next time so she wouldn't have to see them.
In non DB fashion I basically said, good idea why don't you just avoid them like everything else. Meaning our m crisis. I know I should have validated, but there is a part of me that just doesn't care. I know we are not supposed to ask our family for help, I did however ask them to at least be cordial. The way I see it I woud rather my w see the least amount of hurdles if she does decide that she wants to make it work.
Wondering if tomorrow when I drop the kids off with her if it would be appropriate to say something like, "I am sorry you had to go through that yesterday, I know that couldn't have been easy."
I know I said that part of me doesn't care, the other part is a lot stronger in its convictions and that is the part that just checked on his children. I couldn't help but think how nice it would be to look in on them when they are sleeping with my w again.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
